At age 39, Ariel Gore, Publisher and Editor-in-Chief of Hip Mama Magazine, and author of The Hip Mama Survival Guide, found her life uprooted when she took on the role of caregiver of her Joan Crawford-esque mother, who was dying from stage four cancer.
The resulting memoir, The End of Eve, is a darkly comedic exploration of the tenuous nature of family ties. It has been described as “Terms of Endearment meets Whatever Happened to Baby Jane.” Liz Baudler chatted with Gore about how the experience upturned her daily existence and stretched her in ways both terrifying and ridiculous.
In Ching-In and Cassie’s Family, Cultural Differences are Navigated in the Kitchen
1. Making Dumplings (Ching-In)
We began our relationship by eating together.
Cassie courted me by offering to pick up extra goat milk from the raw milk farm. I made avocado and berry smoothies out of the produce I received as part of a year-round produce-buying cooperative my housing co-op participated in. She surprised me with homemade pie. Eventually, we were making lettuce wraps and vegetable stir-fry together a few times a week.
When people say “tastes like chicken,” I don’t know what they’re talking about—though I do remember glaring at bites of it during dinner table stand-offs until Mom, frustrated, sent me to bed. When I was pregnant, then when our first daughter was born and solely nursing, my friends and relatives kept asking if I was going to “make” her become a vegetarian when she moved on to food.
Ms. Fit Editor Marcia Talks to the Author and Mutha Publisher
About two years ago writer, editor, activist, and counter-culture heroine Michelle Tea decided she wanted to get pregnant. Approaching 40, single and queer, she started chronicling her journey on JaneXO.com. Since then has met the love of her life, located the very best fabulous drag queen-sweetheart-volunteer sperm donor money can’t buy, navigated the labyrinths of the homophobic American healthcare system, and become Bob Villa to her own uterus while tackling fibroids, hormones, coffee reduction, IVF, and a rotating selection of vaginal discharge, among other challenges.
Currently, she and her gorgeous Dasheill are engaged, planning a wedding, preparing to implant Dashiell’s fertilized eggs in Michelle’s uterus, and hoping the odds get on board. Michelle has built it; will baby come? Recently Michelle launched Mutha.com in order to fill the void she saw for moms in alternative families—those who have experienced pregnancies or motherhood in ways that might fall outside of Leave it To Beaver. Ms. Fit editor Marcia Brenner spoke with Michelle about her journey and her thoughts on family.